8 Months in (Crawling, Potty training, & a big girl bed)

I have been dying to write this post for awhile now, as I find these quirky little kid update posts thoroughly enjoyable. I’ve been temporarily without a laptop for a little while now, but I have one now, and let’s not get too distracted, shall we?

Last time I actually wrote an update dedicated to the two kiddies, it was back in October at the 5 month mark. Here we are at 8 months in, and with all these new changes I feel like we have now switched gears and are moving at a faster pace – figuratively and literally. To be honest, these past two weeks have been pretty rough coupled with Ross working long days and late nights. I am constantly humbled over and over again by my own flaws and struggles as a mother, but praise God, I am not in this alone. 

Crawling

Crawling truly changes everything doesn’t it? Before crawling you don’t need to worry too much about baby getting into anything because he’s pretty stationary…that is until baby learns how to roll across the room…but even then baby can’t quite move in a straight line, just a diagonal one. 😉 

Rainer first began to sit up unassisted around Christmas time at 7 months old, about three weeks ago. Little by little he gained strength and around New Years he began to scoot. Last week he progressed by the day and now I can. not. keep. up. He hasn’t yet transitioned from army crawling to “normal” crawling, but GOSH is he fast. I turn around for a second and he’s in the other room trying to put a dirty boot in his mouth or he’s ripped off the plastic screen on the fridge. Just a few hours ago I left the kids in LĂșthien’s room to play while I put maybe two dishes away and then I heard Lu laughing and moving things around in the bathroom. And there they were both giggling in the middle of the bathroom, while big sister thankfully moved her potty and step stool out of his reach (go sis!).

Throughout these past couple weeks Rainer’s personality is truly beginning to shine. While LĂșthien had more of a careful curiosity at this age, Rainer wants to explore everything and anything. The most intriguing objects to him are computer chargers, outlets, the plastic screen on the fridge, and our shoes. His sister is finally now being forced to learn what sharing truly is and how to best protect her precious tower of mega blocks. 

Growth


What’s hilarious is that they are starting to look the same size now because they are kind of almost the same weight…my petite little Lu is 24 lbs while her hefty baby brother is now 20lbs (according to my bathroom scale, who knows how accurate that is). At first I was alarmed at the difference, and felt quite worried for LĂșthien’s growth, but she’s been on the lower percentile for a little while and it’s not like she’s skinny. She’s petite, but she definitely has pudge all over.

Little buddy had his first taste of solids around 6 months with avocado, but I didn’t start regularly giving him solids until the end of December in the middle of 7 months. My milk supply tanks a couple times a month now, and he works up a pretty big appetite. His favorites include sweet potatoes, apples, pears, bananas, and he’s even fairly partial to peas and broccoli.

LĂșthien’s vocabulary and way of talking still continues to amaze me. But hey, she’s my oldest and she’s 2 and 1/2, this is my first time! She totally understands way more than we think she does. Just a few days ago we picked up lunch from Chick fil a, and she was playing with the little game cards that came in her kids meal. She brought one to me to read, and I read it aloud, “If you could do one nice thing for a friend, what would it be?” Though I didn’t expect her to answer, she responded “Pray for Miss Megan?” with her hands folded and a big smile. Miss Megan is her ‘sometimes’ babysitter, like a twice a year babysitter when the grandparents are busy. It was so precious.

Potty Training

We did it. We started it, and the worst is over! I planned on starting potty training soon after the holidays, and we held our breath and jumped into the adventure that potty training is about two weeks ago. LĂșthien had been ready for a few months now, but I didn’t want to bother potty training with Thanksgiving and then Christmas looming in the background so I pushed it to January. We did a version of potty training boot camp, so we quit the diaper in the day cold turkey. The first day was predictably filled with many accidents, but she was already starting to rush to the potty when she felt the need to go. By the third day, she pretty much hard it, especially with dad to coach her along. Every now and then we still have an accident while she’s playing and distracted, but she has been accident free the past few days and we are going back on outings again with not much worry!

Big Girl Bed

LĂșthien’s transition from a crib to a big girl bed has technically been lengthened by about 9 months, which was all completely unplanned. Last April, I removed her crib mattress from the crib and set up her sleeping area on the floor after she got her legs stuck in the crib slots. She slept on her mattress on the floor for a few months until a month or so after Rainer was born when I finally got around to removing the front wall of the crib. By the time she finally started sleeping in the toddler bed, she was already used to sleeping on her mattress without rolling off so the transition went smoothly. Her big Christmas gift from both sets of grandparents was her big girl bed and mattress. Her mattress arrived in time for Christmas, but FedEx actually lost the bed frame package and the second one (free) arrived last week. Naturally LĂșthien slept on the new twin mattress on the floor, so by the time her bed frame was set up and ready, she slept on it just fine without falling off. 

Though we never planned on a gradual transition that this one, I’m really happy with how it turned out. Before Rainer was born, our pediatrician talked about how toddlers thrive on their routines and familiar environment – hence why they usually don’t take change well – so I’ve really tried to take that to heart with LĂșthien. She has been so adaptable anyway though, so that makes things much easier. 

Anyway, you get the general idea…we’re all still growing over here for sure. Babies don’t keep! In the midst of the struggles and hardships of everyday life, thankfully the joys shed light on it all. 

Peace,

Dot 

The End and the Beginning of a Season

Last time I posted on here, I had written a reflection on the sweet moments of Advent and Christmas in our family. Unfortunately, the post vanished somehow from wordpress the next day, I don’t know if I accidentally deleted it or not, but at least I enjoyed writing it. I write this post just one day after the last day of the Christmas season, so I’m really not that late….right?

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The Advent and Christmas season for our family was just what we needed. I know that Ross and I gained even more from having our daughter begin to participate and understand more. It was such a gift observing her reaction to everything new – after all this truly did seem new to her, last year she was only 15 months. Her fascination over our gradually growing Nativity scene (I brought out more pieces each week) was delightful. She kept asking “Where Baby Jesus go?” (because the manger was empty), so when we were able to show her the life size Nativity scene after Christmas Mass, her face just lite up with such sweetness. Of course the Advent candles were a favorite, accompanied by “O Come O Come Emmanuel.” And her awe and glee over the Christmas tree and ornaments made me and my husband giddy ourselves.

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I hope that my memory of the night before Christmas and Christmas morning will stick with me for years to come. This was our first Christmas in our home, so everything seemed more special. Arranging the kids stockings around their respective seating area for the morning felt so sweet. And the next morning when we helped the kids open their gifts, my husband exclaimed, “this is better than I ever imagined.” All in all, it was a wonderful Christmas season for us, our first together as a family of four.

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I will never tire of the liturgical calendar and how it is set up. I am reminded of the verses in Ecclesiastes:

“There is an appointed time for everything, and a time for every affair under the heavens. A time to give birth, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to uproot the plant. A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to tear down, and a time to build. A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance. A time to scatter stones, and a time to gather them; a time to embrace, and a time to be far from embraces. A time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away. A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to be silent, and a time to speak. A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace. God has made everything appropriate to its time, but has put the timeless – into their hearts so they cannot find out, from beginning to end, the work which God has done. I recognized that there is nothing better than to rejoice and to do well during life. Moreover, that all can eat and drink and enjoy the good of all their toil—this is a gift of God. I recognized that whatever God does will endure forever; there is no adding to it, or taking from it…”

This is our Church calendar. We are not meant to be stagnant, our hearts can’t take that. We need the hope and reflection of Advent and the joy and of Christmas. Ordinary time gives us that breath of fresh air and change. Down here Carnival season has begun. And before we know it, we will soon be in the season of Lent.

I had never really been one for New Year’s Resolutions in the past. However, after a few more years as a wife and stay at home mom under my belt, I have begun to see just how meaningful that fresh start and outlook can be. This year I intend to strive for more order in my day to day life. More face time with my family. More gratitude for what I have. Simply put, I intend to make this year my year to be more present to each moment and each day.  Not to mention, my phlegmatic self needs the order to live well.

To my small, small amount of readers out there, I pray that you have a blessed beginning of the year. Peace be with you.

Dot

There and Back Again, Thanksgiving 2016

Though it has already been quite a few weeks after Thanksgiving and Thanksgiving is now old news, I am still happily blogging about our yearly trip up to Virginia. Because Virginia is quite a ways away from Louisiana, and we don’t often have the chance to get up there as often as we would like, I treasure each visit as much as possible. The best moments of the trip were not captured by photos. Sometimes the best memories come from living in the moment and not interrupting it for a photo (if we had a personal photographer who followed us around that would be pretty cool though. Therefore, in the absence of photos here are a few highlights of our trip (albeit sentimental) beginning with the day before we hit the road.

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This journey begins almost two weeks ago. The night before we left, Ross and I attended a wedding in New Orleans for our dear friend Katie. This was a big deal for us (not like it wasn’t for everyone either though, especially the bride and groom). We’ve been graduated and married for over three years now, and we have had to miss wedding after wedding of our friends from college, so this was the first wedding of a college friend that we’ve actually been able to attend! AND it was our first night out since last winter, and certainly the first time I left Rainer for that long.

It was such a lovely treat driving out at night to New Orleans with just my husband for company in his cozy, little Fiat that I never get to ride in. Plus I was wearing a dress that I hadn’t worn since before we were married. It surprisingly still fit me and I LOVED that I didn’t need to worry about nursing in it. It’s the little things y’all. Aside from the awesome date night opportunity, the wedding itself was absolutely beautiful in every way. There was such joy throughout the night, and Ross and I had a wonderful time catching up with out of town friends.

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The next morning we didn’t leave town until 11am. It was a crazy week y’all.

Though we originally intended to stop for the night in Atlanta, we ended up canceling our hotel reservation in order to drive as long as possible before all four of us had a melt down. Rainer slept ok as long as he had his pacifier (which he doesn’t actually use outside of the car), but LĂșthien would cry and complain from her head wobbling up and down and then in turn wake up Rainer. There were several times in the course of the drive where both kids were crying and screaming and Ross and I turned to each other and just laughed at the hilarity of it all. We eventually quit and stopped around 1am.

sunday

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Waking up on a Sunday morning in Belmont was magical. Though I have spent four years of my life there, I felt as I was seeing Belmont with totally new eyes. Dawn opened us up to the incredible beauty of a North Carolina Fall. (I had forgotten just how colorful Fall actually is!) Walking around campus together felt like a dream. It had only been a year since we visited with a friend, but this time was altogether different. Last year it was winter, the students were away, the trees were barren, and we were running late for Sunday Mass. This time around the campus was at the height of its beauty, the students were present though still inside their dorms, and we had some time to explore our old haunts in peace. There is something incredibly fulfilling and beautiful about bringing your children to a place you still call home during a season that you fell in love. All four of us sat together in the grotto and it was such perfection.

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A few other highlights of that stop include nursing on the floor of the narthex during Mass (something I could have never foreseen in my years there as a student), walking up and down and again up and down downtown Belmont looking for a restaurant with an open table (roadtrip exercise + sightseeing + food searching), and finally finding somewhere (new) to eat with awesome food.

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monday 

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Monday was our recover day, and it was a pretty quiet day as far as quiet days go for our family. Ross and I left the kids with my eager and excited parents while we went on a grocery and coffee date. Again, it’s the little things: Walking with your husband and getting to hold his hand when you usually can’t because you’re both carrying kids…Actually getting to sit down and enjoy a hot cup of coffee instead of taking a cold sip every few minutes.

tuesday

Tuesday was our busy meet up with friends day. In the afternoon, we left the kids with the grandparents again – I promise they didn’t babysit the entire time. We drove into Williamsburg with Josh Garrell’s Home as our soundtrack while we enjoyed the peace of the drive. Williamsburg is picturesque in the Fall. After picking up my sister in the older campus of William and Mary, we met our sweet friends Corinne and Chiara for lunch. Ross was the man of the hour, since our friend Chris was unable to make it. Regardless, it was such a delight to all be together and it’s a shame we weren’t able to visit longer.

We finally arrived back home with just enough time to spare to hang out with the kids for a little while and then put them to bed. And then we promptly left to go meet up with my best friend and her fiance. It was our first time meeting him and seeing them together, and I loved it. After 13 or 14 years of friendship, it brings me such satisfaction and peace to see her with the right guy, the perfect one for her.

wednesday – sunday 

Joseph and Anna were back home for their Thanksgiving break. We did normal Thanksgiving week things…grocery shopping the day before Thanksgiving (of course) and relaxing together. Or if you’re like Ross and you kind of run your own business, you make up for lost time and you work from home (or your in-law’s home). 😉

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Then of course there was Thanksgiving Day and all the yum yums. My grandmother and Uncle came in from out of town. And we were also able to meet my sister’s boyfriend for the first time. Good, good company.

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The rest of the visit was filled with great food, wonderful people, and lots of pie. Our visit concluded Saturday morning when we left in the morning with my brother Joseph in tow. We dropped him off at his dorm in North Carolina after a good lunch together and some fresh air by his apartment building.

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The rest of our road trip is all a haze. We were wiped out and just tried to make it through the miles. You know the typical.


All in all, we had a wonderful time away for the week. In case it wasn’t already obvious, I finished this post throughout the course of two or three weeks. But hey, that’s Advent for you. 🙂

Happy Gaudete Sunday! .

 

 

Savoring the sweet moments

It’s a Monday afternoon. Both kids are sleeping at the same time. Outside it is raining for the first time in weeks, and I sit on the couch surrounded by piles of laundry to fold – including clothes that were folded but then scattered by the toddler. There are dirty dishes around the kitchen, but there is a chicken stock simmering on my stove for our soup tonight. I have a cup of coffee by my hand that has been microwaved approximately 3-4 times today. And I thank God for these quiet moments and the comical details of my life.

Last night we had a simple Sunday night at home as a family. Normally we usually go over to my in-laws for Sunday night dinner – which we love, and is such a treat – but we ended up staying at home due to my mother-in-law being ill. We had a quiet, restful, and productive day. The children napped, we napped. My husband and I cooked all three meals together.

After dinner, a simple and nourishing meal, we just sat around the table satisfied and giddy. Rainer gave me the hugest smiles and kicked as hard as he could in his bouncer, while Lu enjoyed her Sunday treat of ice cream. Ross and I just marveled at the sweetness and beauty of the moment.

Life is never always like this, and it is such a gift when you can take a step back and take delight in your children and delight in each other. I know that I’m going to miss these days of little children and sticky fingers and drool covered cheeks.

Thank you, Lord for the beauty, the mess, and the joy.

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Party of Four, 5 months in

It’s been awhile since I’ve written a baby update, and I’m due for another one. LĂșthien’s been a little overshadowed by her brother on the blog though, so this counts for all of us, really.

Here we are 5 days in…

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And here were are about 4.5 months in…

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It has been such a natural fit, being a family of four. There are so many sweet, sweet memories of just the three of us, but Rainer just adds more depth, love, and joy to our lives. I still cannot get over just how much in love I am with this little guy.

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highlights

1. Sleep Training

One of the biggest game changers in our day to day life has been successfully sleep training Rainer, which was something new to me. When I add up all time it used to take me (by the end, around 4 months) to get him to go down for a nap and how long I would wear him, I have about an extra two hours to my day. Not only do I have extra time to get things done around the house, but there is a much ordered sense to our day now, which has helped me tremendously. Rainer sleeps much better now, more soundly, and longer. My friend, Ali, was instrumental in helping me feel confident and comfortable beginning sleep training.

2.  LĂșthien turned 2

LĂșthien turned two last month, and we had a long drawn out birthday celebration for her with multiple birthday parties. One little party was with her Mimi and Pawpaw, one tiny party with me and her because Daddy had to work all day on her actual birthday (we celebrated with cookies), one tiny party with the four of us (and leftover cake), and then one big party with friends. Whew! It sounds like a lot but the 2nd and 3rd were really just us sitting around the table singing “Happy Birthday” and eating sugar together. She can almost sing “Happy Birthday” by herself. Both sets of grandparents got her a playground and a picnic table for the backyard, because she previously didn’t have anywhere to hang out except for the backdoor stoop.

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She had two butterfly birthday cakes, one from each set of grandparents. She likes butterflies JUST a little bit.

And her big birthday celebration involved another butterfly, some sunflowers, and pumpkins.

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We kept the party pretty simple, and for some reason the weekend we host her birthday parties is always the weekend everyone is out of town (timing, I guess?), but it was still such a sweet afternoon.

 

3. Brother/Sister bonding

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These two have increasingly become cuter and cuter together. Rainer may have initially been a “surprise baby” but as the months pass by, I realize more how they really needed each other and I am so grateful. LĂșthien is very much like me: introverted, sensitive, shy. Having a brother around as a companion, even if he’s only 5 months old, has been so beneficial for her. And the feeling is certainly mutual. Rainer takes such delight in his sister. He often has one out of two expressions on his face, either a look of fascination or joy. When his sister is around, the joy runs over. My heart melts when they giggle at each other. Rainer’s giggle is ADORABLE. It’s a loud, happy squeal.

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Rainer is a pro at rolling onto his tummy now. He started tummy to back, but now he really just prefers to roll back to tummy. He has yet to do multiple rolls though, that’s only happened maybe once. He also prefers to be on his tummy when you put him down, he will never last long on his back. A few days ago, she slept right on top of his hand leaving the most hilarious marks on his face.

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We’re still using our bouncer every now and then, but I think we only have a few weeks left with it. I moved Lu out of it once she tried leaning out and forward, and while he hasn’t tried that yet, he’s just getting so big! They are both in the same diaper now. Lu was in 4’s for a while, but she still fits well in 3’s. In fact, she almost fits better in 3’s, so I have them both in 3’s. It’s pretty hilarious. Rainer has huge thighs, so they are a perfect fit.

He is more and more social. He can spot me far away across the room. He will not take a bottle, but I’m hoping to work towards that before we have a night wedding in NOLA in November. He has become more deft with his hands and holds toys well. I feel like we are finally getting into a comfortable groove with nursing. He’s no longer overly particular about how/when to nurse, now he’s just trying to keep up with everything around him when he nurses. If sister or daddy are nearby and talking, chances are he’ll come up over and over again to watch them. What’s nice though – thanks to nap training too – is that he is becoming much more predictable with nursing times. Before then, it was almost always a guessing game with him.

As far as LĂșthien goes, I’ll just say that she is a talker when she’s just home with Ross and I. She talks (I believe) quite impressively and clearly for her age, routinely speaking in sentences. One of the sweetest things to watch develop in her is her imagination too. Last week she was making “avocado salad” in the kitchen. She loves to put her baby dolls down for a nap and pretend to read to herself.

Growth

At his 4 month check up, Rainer was 16.6lbs but by now he must be pushing 17lbs. He’s over 25in tall. Overall he’s in the 75th percentile across the board, his sister on the other hand is in the 15th percentile (except her head is 95th!). I’m pretty grateful for that since now their size difference isn’t so huge.

As far as clothes go he is still wearing some 6mo onsies, but because of a lack of things to wear, I’ve moved him into some bigger hand-me-downs and new gifted clothes, and they are starting to fit him well. He’s wearing 6-12mo and 9mo regularly now. For pants, I can barely get 3-6mo over his insanely huge thighs, hahaha!

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sleep

Again, I posted about sleep earlier. For naps, he usually takes three 3o-45min naps during the day: morning, afternoon, and late afternoon. He goes down at 7pm at night, will generally wake up twice to nurse around 12am and 4pm, and then wakes up for the day around 7am.

LĂșthien hasn’t changed much at all. She still takes a 1.5-2 hour nap and goes down for the night by 7:30pm.


Aside from the joys and the details, there are always old and new struggles in my boat. I wouldn’t change a thing though, honestly. These kids are forming me too.

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Peace.

From Co-Sleeping to Sleep Training | my story

*disclaimer: Because I am really not qualified to give any type of advice, I avoided not going into details. I’m just here to share my story!

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Two weeks ago if you would have told me that I was going to sleep train Rainer, I would have laughed. We never did sleep training with LĂșthien, and though I wouldn’t have called myself “anti-sleep training,” I did not believe that it was a good or beneficial thing for a baby to undergo. I had glanced at articles seen on facebook every now and then, reading about the risks of sleep training. My attachment parenting book that I used to refer to as a first time mom, put “cry it out” in a very bad light. And honestly, I probably judged parents who sleep trained a little bit, “How dare they let their baby cry!” However, in my head sleep training looked a lot like leaving your baby to cry for hours at a time until they passed out (which it does for some). I had also heard that there were different methods to sleep training, but I just dismissed them as silly and over-controlling. Little did I know that there were good reasons for parents to sleep train and sleep training can actually be incredibly beneficial!  I do not believe that sleep training is for everyone, but now on the other side of things, I can attest that sleep training is not as terrible or scary or cold as I thought.

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Early days with my first born

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When you are a first time parent, in many respects you have no idea what you’re doing. You learn as you go. With our firstborn, we really benefited from many aspects of attachment parenting and I do not regret anything in that regard. We co-slept from 1 month-5 months. In the beginning I had never planned to co-sleep, but it ended up being the best thing for us at the time. Once she had hit 4 month sleep regression, she began to wake up more frequently at night; and as much as I loved co-sleeping, I missed the alone time with my husband.

Once we transitioned her to her crib, she immediately began sleeping better at night, waking up only twice versus 4-5 times. It was as if all she needed was her own space. Our nighttime routine was just as long, if not longer, but I treasure those moments with her in the dark, rocking her to sleep in the rocking chair. Like many 5-7 month olds, she was not a very good napper (which often drove me crazy), but she eventually grew out of it. All in all, now she is pretty good natural sleeper.

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The first 4-5 months with Rainer looked about the same. We began co-sleeping at night pretty much from the beginning. I also wore him in the sling or the ergo for many of his naps, just as I did Luthien. And just like her, he hit the 4 month sleep regression and started to wake up more frequently at night. During the day, when I would try to rock him to sleep he actively tried to fight sleep – and boy did he fight it.

What eventually pushed me to consider sleep training was NAPS. When Lu was an only child, it was not such a big deal for me to spend 30 minutes trying to put her down for a nap that would only last 30 minutes. Yes, it was pretty frustrating at times, but fast-forward to two kids, repeating the same routine is not as realistic when there is a 2 year old with needs too. Though I tried to wear Rainer for as many naps as possible, I also have a legitimate neck/spinal problem that is aggravated by too much babywearing.

Last week I was eventually pushed to the limit and feeling pretty burnt out, so I reached out to my friend who has three children. Her youngest is the same age as Rainer, who they just started sleep training. I knew that they had had what seemed to be a positive experience with sleep training in the past. After doing some more research on sleep training – the benefits, what it looked like, personal success stories, I knew that I wanted to start but I was pretty anxious.

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My first experience with letting Rainer “cry it out” was almost accidental. I didn’t plan to start when I did, but things were so chaotic trying to get both kids ready for bed that night, that I just needed to leave him awake in his crib. (My husband is not always home during bedtime on weekdays, so I’m often solo). So…just like that, we started sleep training. I went in every few minutes to comfort him (but not pick him up) and I wouldn’t stay longer than a minute. He fell asleep just within 25 minutes. It was not easy, and it was pretty nerve wracking that first time, but Luthien kept me distracted for half of that. Because I wasn’t completely prepared though, and Rainer’s bed was still in our room, we co-slept that night beginning at midnight when he woke up to nurse and I brought him in bed. I usually don’t check the time in the middle of the night, but out of curiosity I did…he woke up every hour and a half that night. 

During that first night, I was able to have a great conversation with my friend, Ali, who basically coached me through what they do with their children. It was so reassuring hearing from someone who has come out on the other side three times. Now it has been four days since we first began sleep training and Rainer went to bed just within minutes of me putting him down drowsy but awake. The progress of the past few nights have looked like this (note, I differentiate between fuss and cry)

Day 1

Fussed/Cried 25 minutes

Coslept beginning at 12am, he woke up every 1.5 hours

Woke up around 6:30am

Day 2

Fussed 25 minutes

Up at 1am and 5am to nurse

Woke up around 7am

Day 3

Fussed 15 minutes

Up at 12am and 4am to nurse

Woke up around 6:30am

Day 4

Fussed 25 minutes

Up at 1am, 3am (I probably could have let him go back to sleep on his own), 5am

Day 5 

Fussed on/off for 7 minutes

Up at 10:30pm, made a little bit of noise, fell back asleep

Up at 12am and 4am to nurse

Up at 6am, made a little noise, fell back asleep

Woke up around 8:20am

Day 6

Barely made a sound

Up at 11pm, made a noise, back to sleep

Up at 12am to nurse

Up at 4am to nurse

Up at 6:20, he probably could have slept longer but he had a blow out (haha!)

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I should note that on days 5 and 6, I began nap training. Ali explained to me that the sleep consultant they worked with years ago said that we use different parts of the brain for nap and night sleep. Because of this, that’s why it’s a little harder for babies to nap long. Nap training has been a bit harder than our night training with Rainer, but today we’re going on our second day and already it has been positive. The first time we attempted nap training, he did not go down after 40 minutes, so we quit and tried again later. That has been the worst of it though. He has progressively been getting better and better.

If you’ve actually read this through, congratulations! I honestly just wanted to share my relief and excitement and amazement at how much better he is sleeping because of sleep training. Just like his sister, it seems that he loves having his own space. And in addition to that, just by giving him a little bit of independence, I am a little saner and he’s sleeping better too. It wasn’t the incredibly brutal and cold process that I pictured. I will confess though, I was pretty sad the first night I went to sleep without him in the room. It was basically our first night “apart” EVER. That didn’t last too long though, seeing as he woke up to nurse pretty soon after that. There’s my baby! 🙂

We’re still in the process, but I am looking forward to a new week of a more ordered, happier, and well-rested home. It’s pretty incredible how much more time I have at night now, and how much more time and energy I have to put into my day. I may come back and update this a little when we are through, but for those of you who are scared to sleep train and feel like you are interested…do some research, talk with people who have had positive experiences, and maybe modify as you see fit. I am not an expert by any means, I only have my own (so far) 5 day experience. And for those of you who are not drawn to sleep training at all, that’s totally ok! Do what is best for you and your family. ❀

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Peace,

Dot

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Life with 2 Under 2 | Lessons Learned |

 

These two.

Life with two under two has certainly been full, beautiful, exhausting, frustrating, hilarious, and sweet. Every parent hits a new season of their life with each child and with each stage of development. I say this from not only experience but from what I’ve heard and observed from friends and family members. (Also, it’s pretty obvious, right?) When LĂșthien was a baby it was our first time being parents, everything was new and unfamiliar. For myself there was a lot of uncertainty at times…Is she nursing enough? Why is she not napping for long? Why is she refusing to nurse? How long are we going to co-sleep? This time around, though I have more confidence than I did as a first time mom, there are still the natural uncertainties that come with a new baby. Yet, on top of that, it is our first time with a toddler, and it is now our first time juggling multiple children.

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dance party

Each day is an adventure. Some days I’m ready for it with a cheerful spirit, some days I’m like “can we all please sleep for another hour?” Our days are filled with sweet kisses and hugs, with crying and whining, with reading and playing, with naptime and…not naptime, with chores half-completed, and with dinner sometimes burnt (jk, I’ve been getting better at that). Some nights I fly solo for dinner and bed, yet many days Ross is home for lunch during the day. Last week I had a semi-meltdown, but Ross happened to be home AND available and willing to stay with Rainer, while Lu and I grabbed milkshakes. Our life is not unique to other families in that we have two little kids, but it’s unique to us and I would never trade it for another.

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Lu attempting to play with Rainer

Some lessons learned thus far in this two under two life…

Wear Rainer for his small naps during the day, that way I can play with Lu more easily.

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Don’t be a crazy helicopter parent about the toddler being around the baby. Allow her to give him lots of kisses…but…she might sit on him when you’re not looking in attempts to “play.”

Sometimes you need to sit in the corner of the kitchen for half a minute to eat a snack without the toddler asking “a bite, please? Snack, please?”

Read books to Lu with Rainer in my lap.

Have as much one on one time with each kid as I can.

Don’t obsess about whatever the current nursing troubles are. Rainer has huge chubby legs after all.

Give both babies lots of kisses.

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Let your husband treat you to whatever offers of cookies and red wine there are. A late night taco? Are you crazy? Ok, fine, I’ll take one. 

Keep in touch and surround yourself with other young mamas.

Eat. Drink Water. All the time. A hungry, lactating Dot is not a happy Dot.

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Go outside. Play outside.

Remember what true leisure is and take part in it.

But above all else seek God. Have real time with my spouse. Pray with LĂșthien. Snuggle with Rainer.